Mengapa Wanita Menangis?

Persoalan yang amat menarik bagi saya yang berjaya dirungkaikan oleh Dato’ Dr. Haji Fadzilah Kamsah. Saya ingin berkongsi beberapa informasi yang diperkatakan oleh beliau.

Wanita lebih cepat menangis berbanding dengan lelaki. Wanita juga lebih mudah mengingatkan peristiwa yang boleh menyebabkan dia menangis dan tertawa bila ia mampu. Bagi lelaki, wanita adalah bintang dan pelita. Tanpa pelita maka gelaplah malam mereka.

Punca wanita menangis. Mencuci mata (merupakan salah satu cara untuk meluahkan rasa stress dan dalam masa yang sama dapat membuang bahan kimia yang terdapat dalam mata). Menangis juga mampu mengurangkan stress. Selain dari itu menangis juga sebagai tanda keinsafan dan penyesalan. Sekiranya seseorang wanita itu menangis 2-3 kali atas sebab rasa syukur dan redha; pahala buat dirinya. Kadang-kadang wanita menangis sebagai satu ugutan emosi. Wanita mempunyai 9 emosi dan 1 akal. Emosi yang terkumpul, membentuk peribadi seseorang wanita yang ketara kelembutannya, kasih, bertimbangrasa dan menghargai orang disekelilingnya. Daya tumpuan akal seseorang wanita banyak dipengaruhi oleh emosi samada ia memberi kesan baik ataupun buruk.

Kesan tangisan. Semestinya tangisan akan membuat seseorang itu mendapat perhatian. Tangisan yang berpanjangan juga mampu membuatkan suasana rumahtangga tergugat. Lelaki jadi bingung. Orang lain dapat mesej. Selain dari itu juga, jika kita lihat dari aspek kesihatan, tangisan akan membuat mata kita bersih dan sihat. The world stops at the moment when women cry.

Orang bahagia dan gembira, tidak semestinya dia tersenyum dan orang senyum, sudah semestinya dia gembira.

Penyelesaian untuk mengurangkan rasa sedih.

1. Senyum dahulu dan imbau perkara yang membuatkan anda rasa sedih. Perlahan-lahan melatih diri supaya tidak sedih dan menangis lagi.

2. Selalu berdoa kepada Allah.

3. Belajar untuk redha (baik atau buruk adalah untuk kebaikan hambaNYA).

4. Sentiasa tersenyum. Banyak hormon baik yang keluar dan membantu seseorang wanita untuk memulakan hari dengan penuh keyakinan dan gembira.

Tangisan seseorang wanita adalah untuk melaungkan suara hati. Minta dibelai, disayangi dan dipamerkan kasih sayang (ia terpendam dan terbuku dalam hati). Ramai yang tidak tahu bahawa apabila seorang suami menaikkan suara samada sedar atau tidak, ia menjadi antara punca mengapa seorang isteri mudah menangis. So, control your voice projection!

La Tahzan... Jangan Bersedih... Don't Be Sad

Ya Allah, Ya Tuhanku!

Aku bermohon kepada Mu Ya Allah! Kau berikanlah aku kekuatan.

Kekuatan hati.

Kekuataan rohani.

Kekuatan diri.

Agar aku dapat mengharungi hari-hari ku yang sememangnya tidak pernah lepas dari sebarang dugaan.

Ya Allah, Ya Tuhanku!

Gagalkah aku?

Gagalkah aku sebagai seorang ibu?

Gagalkah aku sebagai seorang isteri?

Gagalkah aku?

Aku ingin bahagia. Bahagia bersama anak-anakku dan dia tapi di manakah bahagia itu?

Aku tahu dugaan ini tidaklah sehebat mana. Mungkin ada yang di luar sana, dugaan yang mereka terpaksa hadapi lebih dasyat tapi kenapa sukar untuk aku dan anak-anak hidup tenang, hidup gembira dan hidup bahagia.

Aku tahu, dia terlalu sayangkan anak-anak. Dia mahukan yang terbaik untuk anak-anak tapi begitukah caranya? Wang ringgit tidak cukup untuk buat kami bahagia. Kemewahan yang dia berikan hanya harta di dunia. Kemewahan lahiriah. Apa guna jika kami ada segalanya, apa pun yang kami minta pasti akan ditunaikan tapi pada hakikat yang sebenarnya jiwa kami meronta. Jiwa aku meronta. Jiwa anak-anak meronta.

Aku juga tahu, tidak semudah itu bila anak-anak meningkat dewasa. Bila anak-anak di dalam usia remaja. Mungkin Syafiq salah. Mungkin Syafiq nakal tapi pernahkah dia terfikir kenapa Syafiq jadi begitu? Kenapa?

Aku cuba untuk menjadi ibu dan isteri yang terbaik. Aku cuba untuk membahagiakan anak-anak dan dia.

Ya Allah, Ya Tuhanku!

Sekali lagi aku bermohon kepadaMu. Kau berilah aku kekuatan kerana aku perlukan kekuatan itu.

COME BACK

I'm back!

There are so many things happened. I thought I can fix it all but I know that I can't fix it all. I can't change the current situation. Some things I can't erase, no matter how hard I try. Everything happens for a reason, and I don't understand whats going on now. I'm totally confused.

I'm trying to keep it together with a smile on my face and my head held high. The fake smile may be there. But the tears aren't far be hide. I may say I'm alright. But I may be lying too. The truth is, I'm dying... from the inside

I know that I have everything I need and want, yet there's still something missing. Every day I smile. Every night I cry. In between there's so much pain I wonder how I've managed to bear it at all.

Sometimes I need to hold on to something. Sometimes I want to let go, But sometimes its harder to decide which to do. I wish that the hurt and pain from the past would just up and disappear because I am sick of having to relive the memories and sadness of it.

Sometimes... the deepest love can turn into the darkest hate...

Sometimes I just want to forget the rules, follow my heart and see where it takes me.

Sometimes I wish my heart had a off button... not because I don't want to care anymore but because I'm tired of all the pain its causing. I am tired of feeling this way.

At this point I can say that my mind is telling me to stop, but my heart still doesn't want to... I wish that he could see how much he hurts me. It is the hardest choice to make between what's RIGHT & what's EASY.

When you choose EASY, things go WRONG. When you choose what's RIGHT, things get HARD.

Patience is really a VIRTUE. It takes a lot of will power and effort to restrain myself.

Falling again?

Ever have one of those days when you need to talk but can't? Is there any person who will chat about whatever just to make me feel better?

Who will make me feel better?

If there's really someone that can make me feel better... can I talk? Can that someone really understand my 'talk'? Who will understand? Even he doesn't understand.

Can I keep it to myself? It definitely will kill me.
Must I talk to someone? It's my privacy.

For the sake of 'us'... I really need that someone to talk to but who?
Who can I trust? Who can help me dealing with this huge burden in me?

Enough suffering... I badly need that someone. Someone that really can understand what I'm going through now. Someone that can help me.

I've tried talking to him. I let him know how I felt this couple of months. He may thinks this is nothing... it just another problem that can be solve but it hurts me so much. My heart is falling apart. I'm falling apart.

When I look at you

Everybody needs inspiration...

Everybody needs a song...

A beautiful melody...

When the nights so long...

You are my inspiration...

You are my song...

You are my melody...

Dreadful Waiting!!!

It has been two dreadful day since he left to BTN. I have never been apart from him without hearing him!!! Gosh!!! I feel broken!!! I miss him terribly!!!

All this while, even he went away for as long as two weeks but I still can hear him... this time, not even a sms. What should I do??? What should we do??? Should we change our line, sayang???

DIGI!!! I thought it will follow you where ever you go but now, look what happen!!!

Allah SWT knows how I've been through this two days and I have to wait for another day for him to come back. Give me the strength. I can manage this, I guess??? But like people saying... you will never know how you really feel for someone until you are apart from the 'someone'.

I know he misses me and the kids terribly too but nothing can be done... DIGI!!! "I will follow you, wherever you may go". Duh!!!

Sayang, I'll wait for you no matter how long it takes and no matter what it takes coz' you are my life. You are our life, Sampai Syurga!

Am I happy? Truly happy?

"Yes, I AM HAPPY."

The fact that I am happy or not, doesn't depend on anyone, but on me. "I am the only person upon which my happiness depends. I make the choice to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life. If my happiness were to depend on other people, on other things or "Everything that exists in this life changes continually: humans, wealth, my body, the climate, pleasures, etc. I could enumerate an infinite list... "Over my life I have learned a couple of things:

I decide to be happy and the rest is a matter of "experiences or circumstances;" like helping and understanding, accepting, listening, consoling; and with him, I have lived and practiced this many times... Happiness will always be found in forgiveness and in loving yourself and others, It's not the responsibility of others to make me happy... Everybody also have their "experiences or circumstances."

I love him and he loves me, often inspite of his circumstances and of mine. "He changes, I change, the environment changes, everything changes. Having forgiveness and true love, and observing these changes, that can be, big or little, but always happen, we must face them with the love that exists in each one of us. If the two of us love and forgive each other, the changes will only be "experiences and circumstances" that enrich us and give us strength. Otherwise we would only be "living together." For some, divorce is the only solution; (... in reality it is the easiest...) To truly love, is difficult. It is to forgive unconditionally, to live. To take the "experiences and circumstances" as they are. Facing them together and being happy with conviction.

There are those who say: "I cannot be happy because I am sick, because I have no money, because it's too cold, because they insulted me, because someone stopped loving me, because someone didn't appreciate me!" But what you don't know is that you can be happy even though you are sich, whether it is too hot, whether you have money or not, whether someone has insulted you or someone didn't love you, or hasn't velued you.

BEING HAPPY is an attitude about life and each one of us must decide!

BEING HAPPY, depends on you!